Pastoral Intro
Whether you received “the sex talk”, also known as “the birds and the bees” conversation, from parents who lovingly discipled you, or through an awkward, cringey conversation you’d rather forget… or maybe you never received it at all and had to piece things together from things you overheard from immature kids in the back of a school bus… wherever you’re coming from, I want you to know something: it is a genuine privilege and honor to speak with you on this topic.
I’m very aware that for many, there may be real pain tied to poor parenting, or even the absence of guidance altogether, when it comes to this subject. But here’s the good news:
This conversation isn’t just about information; it’s about truth, clarity, and ultimately the gospel. And in many ways, this is the kind of understanding that should have been passed down to you about God’s creative design through intentional, caring, and loving guidance.
But even if that didn’t happen for you, you’re not overlooked. You’re not behind. You’re not disqualified from understanding the WHY behind God’s genius creativity.
“Though my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will take me in” – Psalm 27:10
Types & Shadows
What if the sex talk you received was only surface-level? What if our culture only knows how to engage with the types and shadows, but lacks clarity on what the shadows are actually trying to reveal?
What if sexual intercourse between a godly, covenant-bound husband and wife is not merely a physical act, but speaks to something profoundly prophetic?
From the very beginning, God designed this with intention, meaning, and deep revelation woven into it, not as something dirty or shameful, but as something sacred that ultimately points to the gospel and the Person of Jesus. (That in EVERYTHING, even the sex talk, Jesus is preeminent (Colossians 1:18).
What you were taught growing up most likely only scratched the surface, and likely missed the deeper spiritual reality and the true purpose behind WHY God designed husbands and wives to relate to one another in this pleasurably unique way.
Are you ready?
Human Anatomy & The Glory of God
Let’s start out with a few foundational verses and insights that will be helpful for us to understand as we get into the topic.
The Lungs
A human being is created with two lungs that are equally filled with the same breath-like substance. The two oxygen-filled lungs are symbolic of the Father and the Son, filled with the breath of God, the Holy Spirit. One lung in particular is seated at the right hand of the other and is the express image of the one on the left. Also, it just so happens that seated around your two lungs are twenty-four white ribs.
Revelation 4:4 – Around the throne were twenty-four thrones, and seated on the thrones were twenty-four elders, clothed in white garments, with golden crowns on their heads.
Hebrews 1:3 – He is the radiance of the glory of God and the exact imprint of His nature, and He upholds the universe by the word of His power. After making purification for sins, He sat down at the right hand of the Majesty on high.
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The Seed
Now to Abraham and his Seed were the promises made. He does not say, “And to seeds,” as of many, but as of one, “And to your Seed,” who is Christ. – Galatians 3:16
The Seed is the Word of God. – Luke 8:11
So continuing on the conversation, we have to understand that the physical reality is a type and shadow representing a spiritual reality. Or in other words, the physical aspect of sexual intercourse is like a parable that needs to be interpreted through a biblical lens.
Therefore, male sperm is seed. See Genesis 38:9 for example. So in our prophetic parable here, male seed has the ability to produce new life.
John 1:1 – In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. 2 He was in the beginning with God. 3 All things were made through Him, and without Him nothing was made that was made. 4 In Him was life, and the life was the light of men.
When male seed is planted inside the bride, the seed produces new life.
When the bride of Christ joyfully and pleasurably receives Jesus, The Seed, she becomes a new creation, and new life is formed in her.
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. – 2 Corinthians 5:17
The way the Lord created the male testes, there are two testicles that both contain seed. These two testicles represent the Father and the Holy Spirit, who are filled with The Seed (Jesus).
“Do you not believe that I am in the Father, and the Father in Me?” – John 14:10 (Jesus speaking)
It’s absolutely incredible that you can see the same pattern of design here that is similar to the human lungs.
So when a married man has sexual intercourse with his wife:
- With his covenant bride on his mind, and with great love and pleasure, he sends forth his seed.
- God, with the covenant bride on His mind, and with great love and pleasure, sends forth His Seed.
- For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. – John 3:16
Jesus is sent forth from the Father and conceived by the Holy Spirit.
In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins. – 1 John 4:10
The Bride, with her Lord on her mind, and with great love and pleasure, receives His Seed. New life is then formed inside the Bride.
After she receives the seed, another spirit (the baby) is sent forth from God to dwell inside her.
- As you do not know the way the spirit comes to the bones in the womb of a woman with child, so you do not know the work of God who makes everything. – Ecclesiastes 11:5 ESV
After a person receives Jesus, another Spirit (The Holy Spirit) is sent forth from God to dwell inside that person. 🤯
- But if the Spirit of Him who raised Jesus from the dead dwells in you, He who raised Christ from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies through His Spirit who dwells in you. – Romans 8:11
- The Spirit Himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God, – Romans 8:16
I’ll leave you with one final thought to finish up the conversation.
Generally speaking, about every 3 days, a man feels the need to release his seed. It just so happens that 2000 some years ago, when Jesus’ body was lying in a tomb, God sent forth His Seed from heaven, and raised Jesus from the grave, that His Seed would joyfully be received by the bride on none other than… the third day. 🤯
Genesis 1:11 – Then God said, “Let the earth bring forth grass, the herb that yields seed, and the fruit tree that yields fruit according to its kind, whose seed is in itself, on the earth”; and it was so. 12 And the earth brought forth grass, the herb that yields seed according to its kind, and the tree that yields fruit, whose seed is in itself according to its kind. And God saw that it was good. 13 So the evening and the morning were the third day.
This content needs to be received with maturity and wisdom, for nothing written here is for the purpose of justifying sin or sinful actions in any way, but instead is meant to gird up your mind against the enemy’s perversion tactics that are trying to distort God’s intended design for your life. May you walk in holiness and stay true to the Lord. If you’ve sinned sexually in any way outside of God’s perfect design, repent and turn away from all your sin, and trust in Jesus’ work for you on the cross. Total forgiveness is a free gift to you and me, who, unfortunately, have sinned greatly. God bless you all.
1 Corinthians 6:9 – Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, 10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God.
If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. – 1 John 1:9
Therefore gird up the loins of your mind, be sober, and rest your hope fully upon the grace that is to be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ; – 1 Peter 1:13
And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God. – Romans 12:2
Ephesians 4:21 – if indeed you have heard Him and have been taught by Him, as the truth is in Jesus: 22 that you put off, concerning your former conduct, the old man which grows corrupt according to the deceitful lusts, 23 and be renewed in the spirit of your mind, 24 and that you put on the new man which was created according to God, in true righteousness and holiness.
1 Thessalonians 4:3 – For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; 4 that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, 5 not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God;
If you’re interested in learning more about human anatomy and how it declares the glory of God, check out this article: Human Anatomy & The Glory of God